Over the last few years, the United States (and many other parts of the world) have seen an escalation in transphobic legislation and rhetoric.
Last week, two women at my job started a discussion with me that left me feeling uncomfortable. During a working meeting with them, completely unprompted they brought up my choice of the restroom at work. Since coming out, I have only used a single occupancy, gender-neutral restroom at the office, a decision that apparently didContinue reading “An uncomfortable conversation at work”
Ever since legally changing my name 5 months ago, I have been working to change it everywhere. Aside from a few key places, banks mostly, I thought that I had done so. One of the reasons that I had rushed was to finish updating my name before the start of tax season. I wanted toContinue reading “Tax season and my name change”
For the last ten months, I have been seeing a voice therapist for help feminizing my voice. At first, these were weekly appointments, but I am now at a point where I only see her once a month to help make small adjustments. For me, these lessons were essential. I was incapable of voice trainingContinue reading “10 months of voice training”
In general, my job has been quite good about my gender transition. The first two weeks were rocky, especially since they kept me confined to my office to prevent me from encountering bigotry. Confinement to my desk ended after about a week and a half. Things have been quite good since then. Aside from someContinue reading “My job wants me keep me at my desk”
Ever since coming out at work, I have had to deal with people around me being overprotective of me. At first, this was a minor inconvenience, something I figured wouldn’t last very long. This defensive behavior started to relax a week after coming out, but it has never disappeared completely. In fact, it has startedContinue reading “Overprotectiveness and infantilization”
Two weeks ago, I went to the DMV to update my name and gender marker on my driver’s license. This was my second attempt at doing so, having been turned away the first time because they disliked one of my documents. This time I was completely prepared with plenty of alternative documents, just in case.Continue reading “The DMV screwed up my license”
Around 2 months ago, I got my name legally changed. This was a more difficult task than I had anticipated, largely due to the incompetence of the circuit court, however, I thought that would be the end of it. Instead, over two months out I am still trying to get my name changed on allContinue reading “The hassle of updating my name everywhere”
A couple of weeks ago, I decided that I needed to speak to human resources about my gender transition.
Why can’t transition ever be straight forward? This past week has been on of the most stressful and complicated weeks in my gender transition thus far.