Over the last few years, the United States (and many other parts of the world) have seen an escalation in transphobic legislation and rhetoric.
When I came out at work, I spent a tremendous effort to remove any instances of my deadname. I changed my email, replaced my ID card, updated the HR software, and edited all of my previous work to remove any reference to my deadname. I didn’t want anyone new to learn it or anyone elseContinue reading “I was outed to my coworkers”
In a few weeks, I am taking a trip to the city of my alma mater to meet up with some friends. The college I graduated from is an ultra-conservative religious college and is incredibly transphobic. As a result, I have not gone anywhere near the school since starting my transition. Unfortunately, several friends ofContinue reading “Going back to my college town”
I remember a few years ago when trans rights (and frankly trans people’s existence) were brought to the fore by North Carolina’s bathroom bill. H.B 2 (a name that is still burned into my mind all these years later) restricted trans people to bathrooms that matched their birth certificates. I was a few years intoContinue reading “Watching progress disappear”
Ever since legally changing my name 5 months ago, I have been working to change it everywhere. Aside from a few key places, banks mostly, I thought that I had done so. One of the reasons that I had rushed was to finish updating my name before the start of tax season. I wanted toContinue reading “Tax season and my name change”
About 2 months ago, my doctor changed up my hormone regimen. My levels at the time were too high, so she switched me from weekly estrogen injections to biweekly. I had some concerns about this change at the time however, I decided to at least give it a try (More on those concerns). Unfortunately, thoseContinue reading “This new hormone regimen is not working out”
A few weeks ago, I came out to an old friend from college. His response to the news was respectful but clearly negative and I assumed that was the end of our friendship. Except, he showed to visit today.
Last week, I had an appointment with my hormone provider. At my last appointment, 4 months ago, I had gotten pretty good results. My estradiol was almost 170 and my testosterone was down to 63, the closest I have ever gotten to my target of 200 and sub 50 respectively. This did not last long,Continue reading “Hormone issues and another round of medication changes”
Two weeks ago, I went to the DMV to update my name and gender marker on my driver’s license. This was my second attempt at doing so, having been turned away the first time because they disliked one of my documents. This time I was completely prepared with plenty of alternative documents, just in case.Continue reading “The DMV screwed up my license”
Last weekend, I found myself in an unfortunate predicament. An old friend from college who I had not seen (and barely spoken to) in nearly a year was in town and wanted to meet up. He and his wife had made a day trip to meet and catch up, without checking with me beforehand. ThisContinue reading “Is educating cis people worth it?”