An uncomfortable conversation at work

Last week, two women at my job started a discussion with me that left me feeling uncomfortable. During a working meeting with them, completely unprompted they brought up my choice of the restroom at work. Since coming out, I have only used a single occupancy, gender-neutral restroom at the office, a decision that apparently didContinue reading “An uncomfortable conversation at work”

Transition and taxes

For the past 3 months, I have been trying to get all of my documents together to file my taxes. It is not going well. I am having a ludicrously difficult time getting documents in the first place, let alone getting documents in the right name. The documents I have gotten have almost entirely listedContinue reading “Transition and taxes”

Wow, HR was useless

Last week, I was outed to several of my coworkers, including some who did not know I was trans (The original post). For no justifiable reason, someone sent my entire department an email with my deadname followed by my current legal name in parentheses. Immediately afterward, I reached out to human resources to discuss andContinue reading “Wow, HR was useless”

I was outed to my coworkers

When I came out at work, I spent a tremendous effort to remove any instances of my deadname. I changed my email, replaced my ID card, updated the HR software, and edited all of my previous work to remove any reference to my deadname. I didn’t want anyone new to learn it or anyone elseContinue reading “I was outed to my coworkers”

Going back to my college town

In a few weeks, I am taking a trip to the city of my alma mater to meet up with some friends. The college I graduated from is an ultra-conservative religious college and is incredibly transphobic. As a result, I have not gone anywhere near the school since starting my transition. Unfortunately, several friends ofContinue reading “Going back to my college town”

I caught Covid and it has damaged my voice

Two weeks ago, I tested positive for Covid-19. Fortunately, it has not been too severe, I didn’t need to go to the hospital, but it has taken me out of commission for the past 2 weeks. I am still not at 100%. I continue to have a mild fever and cough. As a result, IContinue reading “I caught Covid and it has damaged my voice”

Tax season and my name change

Ever since legally changing my name 5 months ago, I have been working to change it everywhere. Aside from a few key places, banks mostly, I thought that I had done so. One of the reasons that I had rushed was to finish updating my name before the start of tax season. I wanted toContinue reading “Tax season and my name change”

10 months of voice training

For the last ten months, I have been seeing a voice therapist for help feminizing my voice. At first, these were weekly appointments, but I am now at a point where I only see her once a month to help make small adjustments. For me, these lessons were essential. I was incapable of voice trainingContinue reading “10 months of voice training”

2021 in review

2021 was a year of many firsts in my gender transition. I came out to someone for the first time. I left my apartment and went places in girl-mode for the first time. I changed my name legally and got an updated driver’s license. I came out at work and started presenting as a womanContinue reading “2021 in review”

My job wants me keep me at my desk

In general, my job has been quite good about my gender transition. The first two weeks were rocky, especially since they kept me confined to my office to prevent me from encountering bigotry. Confinement to my desk ended after about a week and a half. Things have been quite good since then. Aside from someContinue reading “My job wants me keep me at my desk”