Dinner with an old coworker

A few days ago, I had dinner with a coworker from my last job. While I was transitioning at my previous job, I did not come out while working there, so she was unaware of my transition when she invited me to dinner. In order to avoid any surprises, I always come out prior toContinue reading “Dinner with an old coworker”

An uncomfortable conversation at work

Last week, two women at my job started a discussion with me that left me feeling uncomfortable. During a working meeting with them, completely unprompted they brought up my choice of the restroom at work. Since coming out, I have only used a single occupancy, gender-neutral restroom at the office, a decision that apparently didContinue reading “An uncomfortable conversation at work”

Transition and taxes

For the past 3 months, I have been trying to get all of my documents together to file my taxes. It is not going well. I am having a ludicrously difficult time getting documents in the first place, let alone getting documents in the right name. The documents I have gotten have almost entirely listedContinue reading “Transition and taxes”

Wow, HR was useless

Last week, I was outed to several of my coworkers, including some who did not know I was trans (The original post). For no justifiable reason, someone sent my entire department an email with my deadname followed by my current legal name in parentheses. Immediately afterward, I reached out to human resources to discuss andContinue reading “Wow, HR was useless”

I was outed to my coworkers

When I came out at work, I spent a tremendous effort to remove any instances of my deadname. I changed my email, replaced my ID card, updated the HR software, and edited all of my previous work to remove any reference to my deadname. I didn’t want anyone new to learn it or anyone elseContinue reading “I was outed to my coworkers”

Going back to my college town

In a few weeks, I am taking a trip to the city of my alma mater to meet up with some friends. The college I graduated from is an ultra-conservative religious college and is incredibly transphobic. As a result, I have not gone anywhere near the school since starting my transition. Unfortunately, several friends ofContinue reading “Going back to my college town”

I caught Covid and it has damaged my voice

Two weeks ago, I tested positive for Covid-19. Fortunately, it has not been too severe, I didn’t need to go to the hospital, but it has taken me out of commission for the past 2 weeks. I am still not at 100%. I continue to have a mild fever and cough. As a result, IContinue reading “I caught Covid and it has damaged my voice”

Watching progress disappear

I remember a few years ago when trans rights (and frankly trans people’s existence) were brought to the fore by North Carolina’s bathroom bill. H.B 2 (a name that is still burned into my mind all these years later) restricted trans people to bathrooms that matched their birth certificates. I was a few years intoContinue reading “Watching progress disappear”

10 months of voice training

For the last ten months, I have been seeing a voice therapist for help feminizing my voice. At first, these were weekly appointments, but I am now at a point where I only see her once a month to help make small adjustments. For me, these lessons were essential. I was incapable of voice trainingContinue reading “10 months of voice training”