Spoiler: I don’t.
I have held three jobs in my life and I have not come out as transgender at any of them. Despite this, I frequently experienced transphobia and bigotry at all three jobs.
The last few months have seen a massive wave of anti-transgender legislation focused on restricting the rights of trans kids. While often drafted and passed under the pretense of “protecting kids”, these bills are inflicting real and significant harm.
I have been applying for jobs recently and it had led to an odd dilemma. Every single job that I apply for asks for my gender (for diversity purposes, I guess). So far I have always entered male since I am not out yet, but I have been reconsidering this plan. I am not aContinue reading “Should I disclose my gender identity while job hunting?”
In the last few weeks, politicians and the media in the United States have reanimated their new favorite wedge issue: the ridiculous fear of trans people participating in sports.
I have suddenly found myself in quite a rough spot. I was unexpectedly laid off over the weekend and this has led to some challenges for my gender transition.
I got a good haircut, and it has emotionally devastated me.
I had imagined a lot of possibilities going into my HRT appointment, but I never imagined it going like this. What should have been a straightforward appointment became a real mess.
I have always felt restricted by gender roles. Growing up, my family was very conservative. As a “boy”, I was expected to be and act a certain way. I chafed against these restrictions growing up, and it took a toll on my mental health. Much of this in-congruence with male gender roles was likely aContinue reading “Gender roles, stereotypes, and cis passing”
I have been working from home since early this year and it has been great. It has certainly made my gender transition easier. I don’t have to worry about hiding the HRT changes if I never have to see anyone. I was also able to go through the emotional changes from HRT privately rather thanContinue reading “I have forgotten how to hold a conversation”