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“Why did you choose that name?”

Last week, a coworker asked me why I chose Natalie to be my name. This question came out of the blue, he has worked with me since before I transitioned and has never asked any questions about it before. Despite the suddenness, he had clearly been thinking about this. He explained to me that most…

The interviews went well, but I didn’t get it the job

Two weeks ago, I had an initial interview for a significant promotion at work (Interview Post). That interview went extremely well and I was asked to interview again. And again. and again. Over the last 3 weeks, I had 6 interviews with nearly a dozen different people, several of them back to back. I had…

Preparing for an upcoming job interview

Later this week, I have a job interview. This is a pretty big deal, it is an internal interview for an incredibly significant promotion at work. The position itself is kind of a long shot, they are looking for someone with considerably more job experience than I have, however I got the interview. Landing this…

Dinner with an old coworker

A few days ago, I had dinner with a coworker from my last job. While I was transitioning at my previous job, I did not come out while working there, so she was unaware of my transition when she invited me to dinner. In order to avoid any surprises, I always come out prior to…

The attack on trans rights

Over the last few years, the United States (and many other parts of the world) have seen an escalation in transphobic legislation and rhetoric.

An uncomfortable conversation at work

Last week, two women at my job started a discussion with me that left me feeling uncomfortable. During a working meeting with them, completely unprompted they brought up my choice of the restroom at work. Since coming out, I have only used a single occupancy, gender-neutral restroom at the office, a decision that apparently did…

Transition and taxes

For the past 3 months, I have been trying to get all of my documents together to file my taxes. It is not going well. I am having a ludicrously difficult time getting documents in the first place, let alone getting documents in the right name. The documents I have gotten have almost entirely listed…

Wow, HR was useless

Last week, I was outed to several of my coworkers, including some who did not know I was trans (The original post). For no justifiable reason, someone sent my entire department an email with my deadname followed by my current legal name in parentheses. Immediately afterward, I reached out to human resources to discuss and…

I was outed to my coworkers

When I came out at work, I spent a tremendous effort to remove any instances of my deadname. I changed my email, replaced my ID card, updated the HR software, and edited all of my previous work to remove any reference to my deadname. I didn’t want anyone new to learn it or anyone else…

Going back to my college town

In a few weeks, I am taking a trip to the city of my alma mater to meet up with some friends. The college I graduated from is an ultra-conservative religious college and is incredibly transphobic. As a result, I have not gone anywhere near the school since starting my transition. Unfortunately, several friends of…

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